I realized I haven't written an entry in a while. Partly because I was out of the state and partly because of time. I realize that time is used as an excuse for me a lot. I say excuse but in fact I am a really busy person. My schedule is usually full and sometimes after a long day at work the last thing I want to do is sit in front of my computer. I do like writing (or typing) though. I don't know. Today I am feeling pretty scattered so I am not sure what this is going to be or even if there will be some significant point made. Today just may be the inner workings of my mind that gets shared with you. A part of me just came up and said "WAIT! Do you really want to do that"? Fear of judgment is behind that. To that part I say yes. I do want to do that because I made a commitment to be raw and real and if people who read this can not handle it then, frankly, that is their issue. If they have a problem with it they can address it with me, or not. It's not my business anyway. I have spent way too much time caring about what other people think of me. It has stopped me from doing a lot of things and experiencing things that I wanted to. I don't want to be that way anymore. I want to experience life as I want to. If it doesn't fall in line with what your expectations are of me, again, not my problem. I feel like I am being defensive now. That part of me that wants to be strong and stand up to the world feels like it's important for me to do that. I recognize that I can do that in a less defensive/aggressive way and still feel like I am standing up for myself. I do that better today. I stand up for myself in many ways in which I didn't in the past. Still room for improvement but as far as I am concerned there is always room for improvement and that is why perfect doesn't exist. I was reading an old journal last night and I had contemplated getting a tattoo that says perfectly imperfect. That phrase really resonates with me. Speaking of tattoos, I really want another one. I want my Beyond Pumpkin one and have a few ideas of how I want it to look. I need to start a specific fund to save for it as well. I hate that I have to be so aware of money like this. I look forward to the day when I can just afford things. I don't need to or want to be rich but I want to be able to buy things for myself without wondering if something else is going to suffer because of it. Lots of energy is going into my private practice so that can come true. I know that I can and am successful and can and am creating a space for increased success. I went to Starbucks on break and am feeling pretty affected by the caffeine. Normally it doesn't hit me this fast. I wonder if it is hitting me like it is because of how tired I feel. I am doing p3 this weekend and am wondering if I should or if I should cancel. I have princess status so I can still take care of myself and show up for the students. I can continue to take care of myself as the day and the weekend progresses. Actually it is important for me to always take care of myself. Self care is important. I think what happens sometimes is I think I am engaging in self care, and to a certain extent I am, but I am still doing a lot which feels like I am always on the go and not relaxing. Now I do take time just to relax. I can remember in the recent past chillin on the couch and watching The L Word for several hours (Dani stop laughing. LOL). I think the things I do to relax or for self care sometimes need to be different. Taking a walk in the woods, reading on the porch, doing some artwork. . . Those are activities I want to do more often. Spending time with and connecting with people who are important to me always fuels me but I am realizing that I need the alone time as well. I think ever since being clean my "true" personality characteristics are presenting themselves and I have more introverted qualities then I thought I did. I think I would still be considered an extrovert if I had to choose one or the other. Next weekend I am planning a date with a friend I haven't been able to connect with in awhile and I am looking forward to that. That is the only thing I have planned. I think I may plan some alone time activities for that weekend. Even if its only a few hours a day. I don't necessarily need a whole weekend of alone time. Sometimes I feel like I don't know what I need because I want to do it all. I want to be alone and I want to be with my people and I don't want to miss things and at times I am ok with missing things. These parts are sometimes not on the same page. I would like to in this moment acknowledge all the parts who are listening right now and say thank you for everything you do for me. Each of you is important and I know I would not have survived this long without you. I look forward to being able to do more parts work so I can see how it all works. I think even the small amount I know helps because I am able to acknowledge parts that come up and just validate them, instead of bashing myself, or in essence them. Being compassionate with myself for everything is the way to go. That is where healing comes in. It is important for me to treat myself nicely. I know at times I will forget to but that is why I have amazing people in my life to remind me there is a healthier way to do things. My best friend in the whole wide world tells me that I have manifested these amazing connections and that feels so good. It feels amazing to know that because of the work I do, I have invited people into my life who do the work as well. People who love me unconditionally and support me and who show up for me. Holy shit people show up for me! I can think of many and there are 2 people who show up for me in the most amazing ways. I never knew it was possible to have that. I am so grateful. Who knew I would ever be grateful for being an addict! . . . .
And shift! I have been having an IM conversation with a coworker and we have been laughing by ourselves in our respective offices. At one point she got up and came in here because she couldn't handle it anymore. Here is the conversation. **disclaimer: I am totally aware that this may only be funny to her and I but here it is anyway**
Amanda Robinson
SSSSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO The Macchiato goes faster to the blood stream!! LOL13:25
Jarmela Coleman
LOL...Yes!!! 13:25
I LOVE them.13:26
Amanda Robinson
Yeah I am typing super fast right now so hopefully ill get some work done. LOL
Jarmela Coleman
LOL..it was the boost you needed. Now I am fighting the urge to get one after work.13:27
Amanda Robinson
Sorry :(13:28
I am sure there is a 12 step program out there you can attend :)
Jarmela Coleman
No, it's fine.
Amanda Robinson
I hope its ok to make a joke like that.
Jarmela Coleman
LOL..I am sure there is a Starbucks addiction group.13:29
Yes, I totally get your sense of humor...you never have to worry about me being offended...
Amanda Robinson
Ok great and I know you well enough to know if you are offended you will tell me.13:30
Jarmela Coleman
Oh yes! Then we will laugh about why I am offended...
Amanda Robinson
Haha! Yes13:31
I just literally LOL'ed at that
Jarmela Coleman
LOL..I just LOL'ed at THAT!
Amanda Robinson
Haha! And then I just LOL'ed again!
OMG this is the best part of our conversation!
Jarmela Coleman
stop it...I look like a crazy person in my office laughing by myself!!13:32
Amanda Robinson
Me too!
LOL13:33
I have my headphone on and am listening to music so I can "pretend" that I am listening to comedy!
LOL
I dont know why I had to use quotes around pretend!
Jarmela Coleman
LOL...
Amanda Robinson
Holy crap its really amazing how fast I am typing.
LOL
Jarmela Coleman
stop it!! I am actually in here laughing!!
Amanda Robinson
Hee hee!
I wish I could sneak up on you and hear this but then I wouldnt be able to continue to type to you to make you laugh13:34
This part for me is more fun I think!
Jarmela Coleman
It is...now I want a carmel machiato so that I can type fast, and laugh at the same time! Next Friday...13:35
Amanda Robinson
I'm in!
We'll do it together.
I am such an enableer!
or an enabler
Why does that look funny13:36
Am I still spelling it wrong?
the second one is right right?
LOL
or correct
Haha!
OMG I love you!13:41
Jarmela Coleman
Uh oh...what did I do now?
Did some kid just yell out "Pancake?"
Amanda Robinson
That you came in here!
It was awesome
I dont know I have my headphones on13:42
I am listening to iHeart
Radio
Jarmela Coleman
I'm excited about coffee every Friday now!
Amanda Robinson
Woot1
or !
Jarmela Coleman
Tying super fast again huh?
Amanda Robinson
Haha13:43
yes
Sometimes I do make mistakes and forget to correct them
BUt that is why spell check is super amazing for my notes and blog
I am about to totally add this to my blog
Jarmela Coleman
The LOL part or the spellchecker part?13:44
Amanda Robinson
the LOL part13:46
I can actually copy and past this whole conversation but I think it may only be funny to us. Like when people are high and they think things are funny but you can only "get it" if you are high too.13:47
I mean so I have heard!
Jarmela Coleman
LOL..so I heard also!
Amanda Robinson
Hee Hee
SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. Whole convo or parts of it AND do you want to be anonymous?13:48
Jarmela Coleman
Nope..It's ok if they see my name.
Amanda Robinson
Woot!
So . . . I think this may be a good place to end. I am going to get some more work done so I can be all caught up and not have to worry about this damn place at all this weekend. Thank you to those who stuck it out through this whole post. Sometimes it just feels good to be random and get it all out. Well not all. There is so much more in there but maybe that will be a future post. Until next time . . .
Hugs and love to all
Amanda